How To Accept More Grace (and Less Condemnation) in the 2020 New Year

How More Grace (and Less Condemnation) Can Be Found in 2020

Keep reading to discover why it may be healthier for you to live out a New Year’s Hope, rather than make a New Year’s Resolution.

Christmas is over.

And if I’m quite honest, that tree standing over there in the corner of my living room – that tree that brought me so much joy for the last four weeks – has become a super-depressing sight overnight.

Is this why people make New Year’s Resolutions?

I think so. It must be at least one of the reasons, anyhow. Don’t we all need a bit of a pick-me-up after the post-holiday emotional crash? I know I do. (You can find out how I get myself and my kids moving again after the holidays here.)

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Today, as I look forward to the new year, I’m thinking about mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. I make them frequently; then, I beat myself up over said mistakes until my soul is raw and bleeding. But I’m beginning to realize that this may not be the healthiest way to deal with my failings.

(For example, you can read about last year’s epic fail advent plans here.)

I’m beginning to see that:

My soul needs less condemnation and more grace.

Hmm… Now that I’m thinking about it, maybe I don’t need the guilt of another failed New Year’s resolution this year. Instead, I’ll choose a New Year’s hope.

2020 New Year Hope Resolution More Grace Less Condemnation
Want to start the 2020 New Year with hope? I’ll share why I’m choosing to accept more grace and less condemnation this new year and why you can too.

My New Year’s Resolution Hope:

My New Year’s hope is to continue learning – albeit s l o w l ynot to repeat old patterns of self-condemnation over merely being human.

I mean, how silly of me, anyway.

Humans make mistakes.

I’m human.

Ergo, I will make mistakes.

“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.”

Romans 8:1 NLT
accepting peace and grace instead of self-condemnation

A wise woman once told me, “When I make a mistake, I try not to condemn myself; but rather, I ask God, ‘What do you want me to learn from this?’”

Similarly, I find comfort in the words of St. Francis de Sales:

quote by St. Francis de Sales on accepting grace rather than self-condemnation

Condemnation Vs. Grace

There’s this pesky moral perfectionist inside me, however, that argues:

“Wait just a minute! Are you saying I don’t have to berate myself for being human? I don’t have to get it right the first time, every time? You’re saying that I can turn this crappy moment into a positive by learning from it? That’s preposterous!”

“Yes,” I reply. “Yes, it is. But that’s grace, and I’m so thankful for it.”

Difficulty Accepting Grace

Is there one area of your life in which you find it’s most difficult to accept grace? For me, it’s in my work as a writer. Why? Because there is much power in the written word. Power for good, but also power to hurt.

blogger writing article on accepting grace rather than self-condemnation

At the Risk of Offending

As a writer, I will inevitably hurt, offend, frustrate, tick-off, or confuse my readers. Even if I have the best of intentions and pick my words ever so carefully, I will still get myself into messy situations like:

  • I think I wrote something lovely and full of hope, but instead some find it offensive.
  • I mean to encourage and motivate, but instead some feel pressured or judged.
  • And so on…
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Grace for Me (and You)

As I grow and change in the coming year, what will I do with my mistakes? I will say to myself: “There, I have made a mistake. I will go on now and learn from it.” I will choose to accept grace.

In what area of your life do you need to learn to accept more grace?

Take some time today to forgive yourself, accept the fact that you’re human, and move forward.

I wish you and your families much love and grace and joy in the new year!

With love,

Sara Jane Kehler

12 thoughts on “How To Accept More Grace (and Less Condemnation) in the 2020 New Year

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  1. I love this post! Thanks for sharing it with me. Some people seem almost too eager to abuse God’s Grace, but with perfectionists we can almost not except it.

    We think: I must have to do SOMETHING, make up SOMEHOW. And God whispers, “Jesus país the price in full, there’s nothing more you CAN do!”

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  2. Firstly thank you for following me my blog, which lead me to visit your blog and read this post of yours .

    I agree we do need to more kind and graceful to ourself and others. We can always learn and improve.

    Wishing you and yours a wonderful 2020 and a fabulous new decade. Happy new year.

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  3. Great message. I find choosing grace most difficult with my repetitive mistakes. Like how many times will God really forgive me? Thanks for the reminder and different perspective on New Years resolutions.

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